We all claim that we need “Me Time” and maybe some of you are taking it. Others may be reading this without a clue to what “Me Time” is. According to Oxford Dictionaries“Me Time” is:
“Time spent relaxing on one’s own as opposed to working or doing things for others, seen as an opportunity to reduce stress or restore energy.”
If you’re thinking, I don’t do this, then it’s time to start.
“Me Time” Benefits
Yes, there are benefits! Why bother if you don’t get anything out of it? Taking “Me Time” for yourself gives you the opportunity to relieve stress, restore balance and energy, and return to tasks refreshed. It might even make you better company for others. With reduced stress and a fresh outlook, you can now focus on the good stuff when you are with others!
Wrong Ways to “Me Time”
Recently, I added a post to my Facebook group, asking how people execute “Me Time”. A few responses surprised me. If you are trying to get your “Me Time” in while you are food shopping, you’re not doing it right. Same goes for while you are doing the laundry, emptying out the dishwasher, cleaning the bathroom, making dinner, etc. These are chores ladies. This is NOT “Me Time”. Look hard at that definition. It clearly states that “Me Time” is, “spent relaxing… as opposed to …doing work for others”. So, you screwed it up. There’s a way to fix that.
Right Ways to “Me Time”
Thankfully some of you girls got it right. A friend of mine who just started a new job is still finding ways to “Me Time”. She gets up at 5:00am and exercises and has a cup of coffee before anyone is awake. “Me Time” is about finding something for you that helps you to relax. It could be a morning walk, a coffee break, some time to read that book you never have time for, a little Netflix watching, a glass of wine, a glass of wine in the bath, a glass of wine with good friends! Don’t even go there with adding the bath in that last line. Very funny.
I know you are sitting there saying, “Where? When? I don’t have time for this!” but, you do. You can make this work for you too.
How to find time to “Me Time”
I get it. You work. Between waking up in the morning, getting the kids off to school, getting to work, picking the kids up, cooking dinner, and finally getting to bed, there is no room for this so called “Me Time”. I hate to break it to you, but you might need to schedule it in. This might mean you wake up a little earlier, or stay up a little late. Maybe you find time on the weekend (girl’s night!), hire a babysitter/mother’s helper, or have your husband/significant other take the kids out of the house for an hour. Trust me, you need this. And if you want it bad enough, my hard-working-mom friend, you’ll make it happen.